Although I haven’t officially chosen a word for 2013 (intentionality shall be my word du jour for many moons to come I think), I have been recently meditating upon the beautiful word:
Pretty, isn’t it? Kind of rolls off the tongue like molten chocolate, and when you turn it gently over and over in your mind, it somehow wraps you in an emotional blanket of warmth and peace. – I’ve written down this road before, but with the advent of the New Year, it is, once again, fresh in my mind…
The need to find earthly solace.
This world is such a vicious place. Full of pain, greed, death, disappointment, pride, selfishness, cruelty, betrayal, rudeness… At every turn, we face a battle. And though we know that so is the nature of a fallen world, we can often become weary.
One of my desires, a thing I want to be intentional about this year, is to be a person of, and create a place for, solace for my husband. Would that our home be a haven of order and comfort for him to come back to every night. Where he can rest and revive after a hard day, and feel surrounded by beautiful things that he enjoys as much as I do. I want to be a soul who is like healing balm to his heart after a hard day of obnoxious customers, and critical businessmen. Someone who unfailingly accepts him for who he is, and doesn’t try to change him. Who cares for not only his physical needs of food and clothing, but his emotional needs of affirmation and worth. I want to listen with patience, discuss with respect, and love with my whole heart. -
I want to consciously keep the fences in good repair that fend off: chaos, disorder, accusation, distraction, criticism, anger, and entitled living from our marriage.
The rest of the world may criticize, attack, and challenge our joy, but God has provided this amazing institution of marriage, that, should we choose to use it thus, can be a beautiful safe harbor… A healing solace for our souls.
What about you? Do you desire to make your marriage and home a place of solace?